• his ex calls him all the time and he tells you, "no, we were good friends before so..." and constantly defends talking to her so much
• when you hang out with his friends, they offer him drugs and he turns them down to their great surprise
• you meet a sibling for the first time and all they can talk about is how awful the previous girlfriend was
• on your first major holiday together, he leaves you feverish, severely ill and alone because his family doesn't want you around because they want it to be "just family"
• you have to be rushed to the emergency room for an injury, and the dude visits a record store to pick up something before coming to be with you
• he talks about marriage, kids, future...but can't seem to ever wake up on time to go with you to visit your parents
